Idealization and Devaluation

Gotta keep the balance:

Idealization -----vs----- Devaluation

I want to idealize only as much as the other likes me.

I want to devalue only as much as the other rejects me.

I need to like only as much as the other likes me.

I need to dislike only as much as the other dislikes me.

This is principle of "Conservation of Relational Energy".