Suffering cannot be shared IF

Suffering cannot be shared,

# Unless the other also includes their suffering in the same way as me,

And attends to it with the same interest as I do.

# Additional they must also take the other as a part of themselves in inclusion.

These are the 2 conditions.

If another person is violent/hostile and avoidant towards their suffering,

And if they also do not include the other in real empathy,

Then both the conditions are shot off, and its a double whammy in the negative direction.

Then they are going to inflict the same on you if you ever share about yours.

They are going to be dismissive/hostile/antagonistic/blaming/attacking towards it.

RULE: The way we treat ourselves is the way we treat others.

The 2 factors can be seen as:

# Attitude towards one's own suffering

# Attitude towards others